I am a trans-lesbian and I would rather decide who to tell this to.
Je garde mes vies sociale et sexuelle séparées. 
Mitigating risk of unnecessary exposure and judgement. 
I am able to be more confident talking about this with people I meet online. 
This has helped with my confidence offline too.
      Alva is a pseudonym. This is an anonymous story submitted by a Tor user.
      LGBTQIA+